I am discovering that grieving is quite a process and I've just not been given that time and privacy to figure it all out. I don't know who I am, what I am to do, and how do I move forward without my mate. Like I say, it's quite a process.
So, along with other explorations (Bible, books on devotions etc) I started reading 'Have a New You by Friday' by Dr. Kevin Leman. The first chapter starts with the first of the week, Monday. I cheated, didn't I? But, finding answers is of upmost importance to me so what's a few hours?
I did find out that I have a Phlegmatic personality. That sounds gross. But, in Dr. Leman's explanation he states that Phlegmatic personalities are much like Irish Setters. Aw, geez, such a sweet dog to be compared to.
I'd hate to be compared to a Pit Bull or English Bulldog.
People with phlegmatic personalities....(pros)
1. Keep the peace
2. Can solve problems objectively (gotta think about that one a bit)
3. Have a balanced, pleasing personality ( I hope I'm balanced... but sure people may sometimes think I am 'unbalanced'.)
4. Is patient, obliging, friendly
5. are loyal, good at listening
6. Content, adaptable (boy, I adapted to every new place we moved to during Navy days)
7. don't make impulsive decisions (don't even like making decisions at all)
8. stick to the end of a project (gotta chuck this one... I have tons of projects I haven't completed but then again it didn't say how long you'd stick to it)
Cons of being Phlegmatic
1. Avoid conflict (I did not grow up in a household where there was any conflict nor did Elbert and I raise our children in that sort of environment)
2. Lack of enthusiasm and energy (I'm sort of laid back, got that from my Dad's side of the family)
3. Sometimes unable to make decisions because they don't want to disappoint anyone
4. need self-motivation (I just don't want to change things so my motivational skills are poor)
5. sluggish approach to life (that laid back stuff again)
That pretty much sums me up. So, now that I know what I have to work on.... will read more and find out how to change those things that aren't working for me. Stay tuned.