Today's post reminds me, not of something fun but, of a trying time in my life. I was 21 years old when my second child was born. We named him Steven Elbert (after his Dad, of course). Then the dr. told us that our baby boy had a multitude of problems and he told Elbert, in private of course, that I shouldn't get 'attached' to the baby that he probably would not make it.
Not get attached!! I loved that baby boy from the moment he was conceived. I loved seeing his tiny feet, hearing his cry. I was his Mother, for gosh sakes.
I never got to spend much time with Stevie. He spent most of his time in a Naval hospital 100 miles from where we lived. He was rocked and cuddled by Navy Hospital Corpmen while I was home with my 2 year old daughter, seeing to her needs yet longing to hold my son.
Someone had given me a book written by Dale Evans Rogers. Her daughter, Robin, was a Downs baby. Stevie wasn't Downs but he sure had a lot of other issues and so I read this book 'Angel Unaware' then I wrote to her to tell her how much the book had helped me cope with my own trials.
Yesterday, while going through all that paperwork of long ago I ran across this... a reply from Dale Evans Rogers. I have kept it all these years.
P.S. Yes, Stevie passed away at age 3 months. He was and is my angel always.
I can't imagine your pain and sorrow at losing Stevie! To receive a well and healthy baby into the family, (which we have just experienced) is a awesome blessing. I hope we never take it for granted.
ReplyDeleteHow very special is this letter from Dale Evans! Hang onto all the things worth saving, such as this!
I'm sorry you lost your little angel at 3 months. How sad. The letter from Dale Evans is very special and I'm glad that you have hung onto it all these years.
ReplyDeleteI am sorry that you had to endure the death of your child, Latane. They say it is the hardest thing a mother can do. I am sorry.
ReplyDeleteI have sent you 4 or 5 comments and they keep returning to me. Do you know what the problem is?
God bless you,
Susannah
I cannot imagine the sorrow at losing a child.
ReplyDeleteSo sad, Latane. I didn't know that you had lost a baby boy.. BUT--that book must have helped and that letter was TERRIFIC... Thanks for sharing.
ReplyDeleteYes, You do have a little angel waiting to see you someday in heaven... God Bless.
Hugs,
Betsy
Oh Mom...I remember reading that book when I got older, and knowing it meant a lot to you when you lost Stevie. How awesome that you kept that precious letter all these years! Love you!
ReplyDeleteIt is a beautiful letter, written from a mother's heart. I would hold on to that keepsake.
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry you were parted from your little angel.
It is a beautiful letter, written from a mother's heart. I would hold on to that keepsake.
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry you were parted from your little angel.
Thank you so much for sharing this. So sad you lost your little angel. Hope your letter from Dale Evans brought you some comfort.
ReplyDeleteWhat a touching posting, Latane. I'm so sorry for your loss of little Stevie. To have been separated from him by all those miles took great courage and love for your little girl. Dale wrote you such a lovely letter. Her kind heart found such lovely words to help give you strength. Never get rid of this letter. Its a true treasure. We lost our little grand-daughter, Miranda, a few years ago, and the love and support of strangers was immensely important to all of us, just as Dale Roger's was for you. God Bless....
ReplyDeleteLatane, even though so many years have passed, the love you have for your son will never die as was clearly shown in this post.
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