I'll tell you... life is all about the CHOICES we make. And, we start that process very early in life. It continues on until we draw our last breath. I could talk about CHOICES for the next one hundred posts but by then you would have long since put me "out to pasture", big time. So, I make the CHOICE to not bore the socks off of you.
I guess what's on my mind this morning has to do with gals in my circumstance. It is not age related. It has to do with what life has thrown at you, regardless of what your age is.
When my hubby died I didn't know who the heck I was anymore. I was flouncing around like a cat that you'd tied a can to it's tail. Around and around and around.
Once I worked through most of the grief (well, part of it) I was thinking - I could not bring my hubby back - I could just curl up in a corner (which I had been doing more of less) and exist or I could continue on with living. It was my CHOICE. Which would I choose to do?
I started down-sizing, throwing things out. After all, they were just things!! When the right place came along I moved out of my house and into a nice apartment. I CHOSE to start a new phase of my life.
I had a blogging friend mention to me that she was looking forward to me addressing the down-sizing part a person is faced with after a death. She has recently lost her husband and I can just imagine how indecisive and confusing her life is right now.
As I started the downsizing part of my move, I had to make the CHOICE to not look back, (most of the time, that is). Things, Possessions, Keepsakes. What to do with them?
You can't let your heart rule your head in this matter. Sure there are keepsakes that you just absolutely can't part with... the special Valentine your hubby made for you, a pressed rose from your first bouquet, that beautiful necklace that he'd fastened around your neck. You need those. Those are attached to you with heart strings. Put those things in one pile.
This image says it all.
Then pick up each piece of the rest of that stuff. Look at it. Yes, you bought it on a trip you and your hubby made. BUT, it wasn't that very special thing. He didn't even like it. And the key phrase....it just won't fit into my new lifestyle. Start a pile of those things. Children may want to claim them, Or perhaps a relative or a friend. If they aren't claimed, they will go into the yard sale pile. It's time for someone else to enjoy them.
Remember, these are things you have cherished, things you have enjoyed in your home. BUT... remember, you are making a new home for yourself. What is the MOST IMPORTANT, YOU CAN'T LIVE WITHOUT. Those are the only things you take with you.
Don't let your heart go mushy on you, now. Be strong!! Learn to look at these things as having served their purpose already. They brought you joy, they had a special place in your heart. BUT, things have changed. You have CHOICES to make. Make them filled with grace.
I made mine and lordy how I miss that cute little lamp I had sitting by my bed, that special tablecloth my hubby had bought me in China (one of the kids got it, it doesn't fit my present table.), the books of genealogy (the stuff is on the computer anyway) and a ton of other stuff.
Nearly every day I wonder whatever happened to one thing or another but I don't dwell on it. Those things were part of another time of my life. I CHOOSE to focus on the here and now. I hope you will, too.
GOD BLESS and happy downsizing!!